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Sunday, October 25, 2009

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Before I started to wear abaya every day because of the convenience and comfortability, my mother was very concerned that I would never be able to wear anything cute ever again because I wanted to dress "modestly."

I made this polyvore set with my mom to help her understand that there can be fashion and individuality with modesty. We had a great time and I think she felt better afterward too.

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9 comments:

Banana Anne said...

That was a great idea; it's very important to show your parents that just because you are a different religion doesn't mean that you are a foreigner. I love that denim skirt in the picture; I go ga-ga over any long denim skirt I see in stores and want to buy them, even if they don't fit me!

NeverEver said...

I knooooowwww!!!! I wish they were still selling this skirt because I would buy it in a minute... I've never found another denim skirt that I like so much as this one.

Sansan said...

Its great that you are able to spend this kind of time with your mother and that she doesnt even stop you from wearing abaya!

Rubber said...

sis, u know i had to ask you this question cuz it means so much to me. In the eastern Pakistani/indian culture kids treat their mothers/fathers like they are gods...astaghfirullah! ok...like we are raised up to be extremely leech like on our parents...unlike u converts...who are indepent and thinking adults... which i think is great. how did u deal with giving the emotional blow to ur parents of putting Allah first? like, i mean my mom..just burst out crying and emotionally blackmailing me and threatening me...then she declared i am not her daughter; she also tried to send me to a witchdoctor and also a psychologist...she even beat me up...just cuz i wanted to wear the abaya and the niqab ant i dont believe in being informal with guys any more... note this is all contrary to the my family's ways...and they consider it "enemy" culture lol and they insist this isnt islam and i was brainwashed. i simply believe this is what Allah wants me to do. like, i really tried sis...even tried showing them the quranic verses for covering up and lowering ur gaze also, tried to show what the Prophet(pbuh) did in such circumstances...but they dont listen. i saw so many signs..they dont even belive in Allah's signs anymore sis. i mean even christians do! islam, is somthing outdated for them.. and i have to deal with the mental and emotional blow of being the "unthankful and arrogant" child...for someone who grew up with the sole intention of keeping my mom happy....this is really tough...like ur relationship with ur parents...how are u dealing with "displeasing" them?

Rubber said...

sis, also...all my life i thought that kids in the west are very disobedient....but now i think i know that independence is a good thing...like people in the subcontinent worships ancestral custom sis...and their parents...not Allah. like now i understand...like kids are not allowed to marry who they want...!rather, who their parents want them to marry...i think it is ridiculous.
Rubber

Rubber said...

i think sis the way u r dealing with ur parents is amazing. like u r trusting Allah...and working and striving..and u know it is a test...and everything will be better...a lot... better..it is the way you are because of which ur parents cant like make u cower into not being muslim...like what specifically do u keep in mind...when giving Allah prefernce to ur parents???i mean like...how do u manage? my cuzn said the other day we simply do what u people do:to my uncle!!!and i thought sis that this isnt ISLAM! it is following what the forefathers did! sis, i mean you need to ask Allah for guidance separately!!! i mean they have no concept,sis!!!!!

Rubber said...

like sis...u didnt give a damn when ur dad was pissed at u for considering islam.. i mean it is so cool. i mean u didnt care if u were the disobedient daugther. like my mom started saying all sorts of weird stuff. like she cudnt show me to her friends or relatives!!! cuz i had become too islamic. i mean the whole house is INSANE!!! i mean cmon...they can do hajj and not believe in Allah's signs sis!!!!!!!!! i mean sis....isnt it insane...and my father threatened to hit me cuz i wudnt look at the guys in the restaurant lol!!!??? i mean it is as if they are blind or something???!!!?? i mean really like how do i deal with their emotional insanity and this slavery of me??? they act as if they are displeased gods or something???

Rubber said...

i mean it is amazing. u r allaying ur mother's fears sis. it is like a role reversal. can u see?
i think it is amazing. u must be very string in ur iman, sis. u hope for rewards from Allah? and you hope your situation will soon be better?
Rubber.

NeverEver said...

Sansan: Alhamdulillah my mother doesn't stop me from wearing it. She definitely doesn't like it... and she probably would try to stop me from wearing niqab, but alhamdulillah that she is so understanding. I'm very fortunate.

Rubber: I'll work on making a post of all ur questions sis, inshaAllah it will be up soon. Love you

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