Monday, December 6, 2010
So a sister posted an article about homosexuality in Islam HERE. She asked us to tell her what we thought about it.
I started to compile my thoughts and it started to get pretty loonnnggg lol. So I thought I would write a post here and share the link inshaAllah.
So, in my opinion this issue breaks down into two separate ideas:
I. How I would treat gay people as a believing Muslim
II. What Islam and the Qur'an actually say about homosexuality
I. How would I treat gay people
Simply: with tolerance. Would I condemn someone who is struggling not to sin, maybe winning sometimes and losing others? Absolutely not. I have been and am in the position where I struggle daily with a certain sin(s). Would I condemn a brother who drinks but is trying desperately to stop for the sake of Allah? No. This is jihad and is something commendable!
Allah gives tests to EVERYONE. Whether you see them as good or bad, easy or hard: It makes no difference. Allah knows better than we do. He clearly told us what to do in the Qur'an subhanAllah.
However, if I see someone who tries to warp the teachings of the Qur'an to suit their viewpoint, I will not support this. It is wrong to say that something that is haraam is halal in any way, even makruh (disliked). If it is forbidden, then it is forbidden. It is our job as brothers and sisters in Islam to give gentle naseeha (advice) to help correct this, but we should not do it in a way to make others turn from Islam.
So to me, I see two categories of gay people:
a. those who realize that these actions are a sin and struggle in the way of Allah to control these actions
b. those who try to say that being homosexual is not a sin, just another way to love. This is shaytan wispering you guys. He's waswas-ing all over the place! The Qur'an is clear on this, there is no ambiguity! (as I will show in the next part) To say it is not that bad when Allah says it is crossing the line is WRONG!
II. What the Qur'an says about homosexuality:
I believe that if we are going to talk about Islam and homosexuality we should throw out some daleel (evidence). Saying things like "I don't think Allah would do this" or "I don't think it is fair for Allah to do this" is not daleel. Allah and HIS WISDOM is above what we "feel" or "think" because we do not have the knowledge. HE does, subhanAllah Alhamdulillah.
"Must you, unlike other people, lust after males and abandon the wives that God has created for you? You are exceeding all bounds... So he (Lot) said, 'I loathe what you do: Lord, save me and my family from what they are doing."
In this passage, lust for men and abandoning women as mates are the only charges brought against Lot's people, and these alone are enough to cross Allah's line. Allah created man and woman for each other and He knows best why.
"His (Lot's) people came rushing towards him, the used to commit foul deeds. He said, 'My people, here are my daughters. They are more wholesome for you, so have some fear of God and do not disgrace me with my guests. Is there not a single right-minded man among you?'
When the men of the town came to take the messengers, Lot offered them his daughters (or the daughters of his people). IF rape was the main objectionable crime (as some claim), he would not offer his daughters to such a fate! Would your father offer you up to be raped? Then how can you claim that Lot, a prophet of Allah 3layhi salam, would do that?!? Rather, he was asking the men of his town to turn away from other MEN and instead have conjugal relations with the WOMEN of the tribe, which is more wholesome.
Again, for those that claim that RAPE was the issue with Lot's people and not homosexuality, note that there was not ONE SINGLE right minded man in the town. This was not an issue of rape, but rather an issue of ALL of the men lusting after each other. As they say, "you can't rape the willing."
"How can you lust after men instead of women? What fools you are!"
Here the objection is not over "lust" vs "love" as some claim, but lusting for MEN vs. lusting for WOMEN. This is a contrast between what is crossing the line and what is acceptable.
"If two men commit a lewd act, punish them both; but if they repent and mend their ways, leave them alone-God is always ready to accept repentance, He is full of mercy. But God only undertakes to accept the repentance from those who do evil out of ignorance and soon afterwards repent: these are the ones God will forgive, He is all knowing, all wise. It is not true repentance when people continue to do evil until death confronts them and then says, 'Now I repent'..."
I don't think it is coincidence that these verses appear together, and this is the verse that gave me the idea of the two kinds of homosexuals. One is the repentant person who realizes it is wrong and struggles to control themselves. The other is the repeat offender who is not actually repentant.
Allah says punish those that don't repent and repentance means
a. realizing that what you did is wrong
b. asking Allah for sincere forgiveness
c. not repeating the action
Those that try to say that homosexuality is not really "that" haraam are not fulfilling the requirements of repentance.
If you are living in sin and indulging in the same sin repeatedly, then you are, as defined by the Qur'an, not truly repentant.
Now that said: am I the judge of these people? Nope. This is just my personal view on the Qur'an from my own personal study. I am not a scholar and this is not a reproduction of someone else's research, and Allah knows better. However, I do not believe there is any ambiguity. Allah forgives and punishes where he will, so "wait if you wish, I too am waiting (52:31)" and Allah will be the best of judges.
Sunday, December 5, 2010
Monday, November 22, 2010
And through it all, make LOTS AND LOTS of du'a. Allah wants you to do what he commanded, and He is on your side subhanAllah. Sincerity is the key :-) Be sincere in your efforts and be honest with yourself about your intentions.
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Saturday, November 20, 2010
NOW WE FINALLY HAVE HIJAB!! We are wearing loose and concealing clothes, our hair/chests are covered, and you can't tell our body shape.
Friday, November 19, 2010
O Prophet! Tell your wives and daughters and the believing women that they should draw over themselves their jilbab (outer garments) (when in public); this will be more conducive to their being recognized (as decent women) and not harassed. But God is indeed oft-forgiving, most merciful. (33:59)
And know that women advanced in years, who no longer feel any sexual desire incur no sin if they discard their thiyab (outer garments), provided they do not aim at a showy display of their zeenah (charms or beauty). But it is better for them to abstain (from this); and God is all-hearing, all-knowing. (24:60)
We should draw our Jilbab (outer garments) around us. This means there should be something INSIDE our outside clothes.
If a woman is allowed to take off her thiyab (outer garments) when she is advanced in years, is she now allowed to walk around naked or in her underwear? No. Now she is allowed to wear the clothes she had on inside. This means that the clothes she wears inside her outer garments should also be modest enough to not display your charms or beauty, but still somewhat different than the recognized outer garment.
My rule of thumb: my inside clothes should be modest enough that I could take off my jilbab (outside layer) and still be able to be around other women. This means no inordinate amount of chest showing (because thats icky) and you should be covered from your belly button down to below your knees (this is awrah for women around other women, just like it is awrah for men).
Thursday, November 18, 2010
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Because there has been a little confusion I decided to clarify a bit for you all.
The posts I have done so far represent positive change toward a more modest wardrobe. They DO NOT fulfill the Islamic requirements of hijab. I will cover this in more detail in later posts.
I will not be showing an outfit that is proper hijab until about post 6 or 7.
These early posts are about making positive changes instead of being stagnant and *wishing* you could wear hijab. It is about being proactive.
It is also a chronicle of what worked for me. This is how I actually went through the process but something different may work better for you.
In any event, slapping a scarf on Step 2 is not proper hijab, and I don't want to represent it as such.
I think inshaAllah I will go back on put disclaimers on the other posts as well.
THIS IS NOT HIJAB YET, JUST MORE MODEST CLOTHES THAN BEFORE
Monday, November 15, 2010
Sunday, November 14, 2010
This is where I started. Jeans, t-shirts, hoodies with pushed up sleeves. Typical college wardrobe, really.
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Friday, October 29, 2010
Thursday, October 28, 2010
My Hiab Says:
I heard you.
I believe you.
I trust you.
Out of love and wisdom you gave me free will and out of love and awe I give it back to you.
Dear Future Husband,
I kept myself for you: you can trust me with your heart and your home and your family.
I know where my priorities are, and you were one of them before I even met you.
Dear Sisters in Humanity,
I respect you as a fellow creation of our Mighty God. I respect your feelings and the stability of your home.
I will not be the cause of your unhappiness, I will not be the downfall of the men you love, I will not betray you.
Dear Brothers in Humanity,
Peace and the Guidance of Allah be on you but, BACK OFF!!!
We came a long way, but alhamdulillah the steps were worth it. We have respect for ourselves and for others. We think about the consequences of our actions. We are conscious of ourselves and our place in the larger universe.
Allah forgive us all for our shortcomings, give us guidance and protect us from the fire ameeen.
Monday, September 20, 2010
I realized I never finished posting up the 99 names astaghfirullah so here we go with the last 9!
The Distressor, The Harmer, The Afflictor
The Propitious, The Benefactor, The Source of Good
The Guide, The Way
The Incomparable, The Unattainable
The Immutable, The Infinite, The Everlasting
The Heir, The Inheritor of All
The Guide to the Right Path
The Timeless, The Patient
Sunday, August 29, 2010
Thursday, August 19, 2010
|82||العفو||Al-Afuww||The Pardoner, The Effacer|
|83||الرؤوف||Ar-Ra'ūf||The Kind, The Pitying|
|84||مالك الملك||Mālik-ul-Mulk||The Owner of all Sovereignty|
|85||ذو الجلال والإكرام||Dhū-l-Jalāli|
|The Lord of Majesty and Generosity|
|86||المقسط||Al-Muqsiţ||The Equitable, The Requiter|
|87||الجامع||Al-Jāmi||The Gatherer, The Unifier|
|88||الغني||Al-Ghaniyy||The Rich, The Independent|
|89||المغني||Al-Mughni||The Enricher, The Emancipator|
|90||المانع||Al-Māni'||The Withholder, The Shielder, the Defender|
|70||المقتدر||Al-Muqtadir||The Determiner, The Dominant|
|71||المقدم||Al-Muqaddim||The Expediter, He Who Brings Forward|
|72||المؤخر||Al-Mu'akhkhir||The Delayer, He Who Puts Far Away|
|73||الأول||Al-'Awwal||The First (Alpha)|
|74||الأخر||Al-'Akhir||The Last (Omega)|
|75||الظاهر||Adh-Dhāhir||The Manifest, The Evident, The Outer|
|76||الباطن||Al-Bātin||The Hidden, The Unmanifest, The Inner|
|80||التواب||At-Tawwāb||The Ever Returning, Ever Relenting|
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
In the Name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful
Allah! There is no deity except He, the Ever Living, the One Who sustains and protects all that exists. Neither slumber, nor sleep overtake Him. To Him belongs whatever is in the heavens and whatever is on earth. Who is he that can intercede with Him except with His Permission? He knows what happens to them (His creatures) in this world, and what will happen to them in the Hereafter . And they will never compass anything of His Knowledge except that which He wills. His throne extends over the heavens and the earth, and He feels no fatigue in guarding and preserving them. And He is the Most High, the Most Great.
[This Verse 2:255 is called Ayat-ul-Kursî.]
3. Sunnnah: to sit with right knee up when on the floor, especially when eating.
4. Surah (in English): Al-Falaq
1 Say, `I seek refuge in the Lord of the day break,
2 `From the evil of that which He has created,
3 `And from the evil (that usually prevails in the times) of darkness when it overspreads (at night),
4 `And from the evil of those who blow on knots,
5 `And from the evil of the envier when he envies.'
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
51. الحق Al-Haqq: The Truth, The Real
52. الوكيل Al-Wakīl: The Trustee, The Dependable
53. القوى Al-Qawwiyy: The Strong
54. المتين Al-Matīn: The Firm, The Steadfast
55. الولى Al-Waliyy: The Friend, Patron and Helper
56. الحميد Al-Hamīd: The All Praiseworthy
57. المحصى Al-Muhsi: The Accounter, The Numberer of All
58. المبدئ Al-Mubdi': The Originator, The Producer, The Initiator
59. المعيد Al-Mu'īd: The Restorer, The Reinstater Who Brings Back All
60. المحيى Al-Muhyi: The Giver of Life
61. المميت Al-Mumīt: The Destroyer, The Bringer of Death
62. الحي Al-Hayy: The Living
63. القيوم Al-Qayyūm: The Subsisting
64. الواجد Al-Wājid: The Perceiver, The Finder, The Unfailing
65. الماجد Al-Mājid: The Illustrious, The Magnificent
66. الواحد Al-Wāhid: The One, The Unique
67. الاحد Al-'Ahad: The Unity, The Indivisible
68. الصمد As-Samad: The Eternal, The Absolute, The Self-Sufficient
69. القادر Al-Qādir: The Omnipotent, The All Able
70. المقتدر Al-Muqtadir: The Determiner, The Dominant
Sunday, August 15, 2010
41. الجليل Al-Jalīl: The Majestic
42. الكريم Al-Karīm: The Bountiful, The Generous
43. الرقيب Ar-Raqīb: The Watchful
44. المجيب Al-Mujīb: The Responsive, The Answer
45. الواسع Al-Wāsi': The Vast, The All-Embracing, The Omnipresent, The Boundless
46. الحكيم Al-Hakīm: The Wise
47. الودود Al-Wadūd: The Loving
48. المجيد Al-Majīd: The Glorious
49. الباعث Al-Bā'ith: The Resurrecter
50. الشهيد Ash-Shahīd: The Witness
31. الخبير Al-Khabīr: The All Aware
32. الحليم Al-Halīm: The Forbearing, The Indulgent
33. العظيم Al-'Azīm: The Magnificent
34. الغفور Al-Ghafūr: The All Forgiving
35. الشكور Ash-Shakūr: The Grateful
36. العلي Al-'Aliyy: The Sublime
37. الكبير Al-Kabīr: The Great
38. الحفيظ Al-Hafīz: The Preserver
39. المقيت Al-Muqīt: The Nourisher
40. الحسيب Al-Hasīb: The Bringer of Judgment
Friday, August 13, 2010
21. الباسط Al-Bāsit: The Extender / Expander
22. الخافض Al-Khāfid: The Abaser
23. الرافع Ar-Rāfi': The Exalter
24. المعز Al-Mu'izz: The Giver of Honour
25. المذل Al-Mu'dhell: The Giver of Dishonour
26. السميع As-Samī': The All Hearing
27. البصير Al-Basīr: The All Seeing
28. الحكم Al-Hakam: The Judge, The Arbitrator
29. العدل Al-`Adl: The Utterly Just
30. اللطيف Al-Latīf: The Gentle, The Subtly Kind
Thursday, August 12, 2010
6. المؤمن Al-Mu'min: The Guarantor, The Affirming
7. المهيمن Al-Muhaymin: The Guardian, The Protector
8. العزيز Al-Aziz: The Almighty, The Sufficient, The Honorable
9. الجبار Al-Jabbar: The Irresistible, The Compeller, The Lofty
10. المتكبر Al-Mutakabbir: The Highest, The Greatest
11. الخالق Al-Khāliq: The Creator
12. البارئ Al-Bāri': The Rightful
13. المصور Al-Musawwir: The Evolver, The Fashioner of Forms
14. الغفار Al-Ghaffār: The Forgiving
15. القهار Al-Qahhār: The Subduer
16. الوهاب Al-Wahhāb: The Bestower
17. الرزاق Ar-Razzāq: The Provider
18. الفتاح Al-Fattāh: The Opener, The Victory Giver
19. العليم Al-'Alīm: The All Knowing, The Omniscient
20. القابض Al-Qābid: The Restrainer, The Straightener