I'm pretty sure that my parents are counting on my religious conversion as a "phase" of my life, maybe just a "fad" or something.
They treat it as temporary which means a lot of time they don't treat it with respect.
The other day my mom was asking me "How are you going to get married?" "Who are you going to marry?" etc.
I explained to her that inshaAllah Allah will provide from where he wants and I will be patient. I don't have a muslim family looking out for the right husband for me. If my dad and brother were to pick a husband for me, he would be an American Baptist dude.
I explained that I will marry a muslim man. InshaAllah one who fears Allah and will treat me with respect and eventually love will grow.
Mom doesn't understand why I can't go out and find my own husband. She thinks I should fall in love with a man I've dated and then get married, like everyone else.
But what happens if that passion fades? What values will we have in common? What will decide between us if we have an argument on how we should direct our lives?
In Islam, these questions are answered for us, alhamdulillah. My marriage inshaAllah will have passion, but it wont be the foundation. Islam will be our foundation.
How do I make them understand? Is it just a matter of time?