That's sometimes true, but other times it really does mean that they're not ready for it. If a convert fears telling their parents that they're Muslim, it's not necessarily that they don't trust ALLAH, but that they are legitimately worried about what will happen to them (kicked out of the house, disowned, or worse). As the Prophet (saw) said, "Trust in ALLAH but tie up your camel".
Of course, it's not just converts that have to deal with this.
I do know what you mean by your statement, and I generally agree with you, but I think there are definitely some situations where there are legitimate reasons why a person is "not ready" to do something.
Banana Anna: Fear is from shaitan and holds us back from doing things. To put our trust fully in Allah means not worrying what our parents think (if its something good etc) and not worrying about getting kicked out or disowned because we trust that Allah will provide etc. Instead we should look at it as a trial and be patient. Telling ones parents is never easy. It took my family 3 years before they started to accept my conversion. I was constantly threatened to be kicked out of our house and even though i was scared they would kick me out I knew that even if they did kick me out Allah wouldnt abandon me and would provide for me. Ive seen sisters kicked out only to find a nice sister to move in with or given shelter, money, food etc by the muslim community so that they can live in a halal environment. The worst family can do is kick one out or disown them. In the end we still have Allah and our brothers and sisters in Islam. Also, a great way to make dawah to our family is by showing them islam (practicing it properly, e.g. praying, wearing hijab etc).
Anne: This is just from my own personal experience. Every time I say the words "I know what is the right things to do, but I'm just not ready to do it yet" I'm really just scared to do it. I'm not putting my trust in Allah. So this is my mantra during those times.
inshaAllah Allah will give us the courage and the strength to do the right thing always ameen
Rene: Yes, I was terrified to tell my parents. I told my mom right away but just sort of waited until my dad noticed. I wish I had just sat them down and talked to them because I think me being scared made it worse. They wanted to know why I was ashamed of my faith... but I'm not ashamed at all! It gave them the wrong impression of my beliefs...
Thats so true! When we hide our faith we are basically showing others we are "ashamed" of our faith even though that is not the case that is the impression they get! I did the opposite, I told my dad(my dad is more laid back when it comes to religion).
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That's sometimes true, but other times it really does mean that they're not ready for it. If a convert fears telling their parents that they're Muslim, it's not necessarily that they don't trust ALLAH, but that they are legitimately worried about what will happen to them (kicked out of the house, disowned, or worse). As the Prophet (saw) said, "Trust in ALLAH but tie up your camel".
Of course, it's not just converts that have to deal with this.
I do know what you mean by your statement, and I generally agree with you, but I think there are definitely some situations where there are legitimate reasons why a person is "not ready" to do something.
Banana Anna: Fear is from shaitan and holds us back from doing things. To put our trust fully in Allah means not worrying what our parents think (if its something good etc) and not worrying about getting kicked out or disowned because we trust that Allah will provide etc. Instead we should look at it as a trial and be patient. Telling ones parents is never easy. It took my family 3 years before they started to accept my conversion. I was constantly threatened to be kicked out of our house and even though i was scared they would kick me out I knew that even if they did kick me out Allah wouldnt abandon me and would provide for me. Ive seen sisters kicked out only to find a nice sister to move in with or given shelter, money, food etc by the muslim community so that they can live in a halal environment. The worst family can do is kick one out or disown them. In the end we still have Allah and our brothers and sisters in Islam. Also, a great way to make dawah to our family is by showing them islam (practicing it properly, e.g. praying, wearing hijab etc).
Anne: This is just from my own personal experience. Every time I say the words "I know what is the right things to do, but I'm just not ready to do it yet" I'm really just scared to do it. I'm not putting my trust in Allah. So this is my mantra during those times.
inshaAllah Allah will give us the courage and the strength to do the right thing always ameen
Rene: Yes, I was terrified to tell my parents. I told my mom right away but just sort of waited until my dad noticed. I wish I had just sat them down and talked to them because I think me being scared made it worse. They wanted to know why I was ashamed of my faith... but I'm not ashamed at all! It gave them the wrong impression of my beliefs...
Thats so true! When we hide our faith we are basically showing others we are "ashamed" of our faith even though that is not the case that is the impression they get!
I did the opposite, I told my dad(my dad is more laid back when it comes to religion).
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